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Friday, February 13, 2009

Newborn Reminiscing

With only 27 days to go before the my new bundle of joy is due, I've been reminiscing on what its like to have a newborn. Bella is our youngest, and will be two years old this May. I can't believe how fast time has flown by! Here are a couple of pictures we took of Bella before we left the hospital. One of the nurses was so in love with her, she made that bow and stuck it on her hat. Hubby and I just thought it was the cutest thing!





I'll admit I am a little nervous about how I am going to transition into being a mother of 3. Nevertheless, I smile when I think about all of the "sweet details" associated with having a new baby. There's just something about...

- The "Johnson's baby lotion smell"
- Tiny little clothes washed in Dreft
- Nursing a baby and being their only source of nourishment
- The baby's first "social" smile (that you know isn't due to gas!) 

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

In honor of Valentine's Day



Here is a video and press release about the Generations Podcast.  Their February podcast is dedicated to a discussion of Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. I have found this book to be very helpful in terms of understanding what makes me feel loved and how I can improve in showing love to my friends and family.  Watch the clip and read below for more info!


PRESS RELEASE

February 9, 2009

Love-Learn the Language

Wouldn’t it be great if we could love others in a way that really made them feel loved? Love is the topic of conversation on the Generations Podcast at http://www.godsword.net. Generations of Christian women share their thoughts about different issues and aspects of life. The hosts of the podcasts are the creator of the God’s Word Collectible Christian gift series, Bridgette Mongeon, her mother Barbara Ingersoll, and her daughter Christina Diliberto. Their February podcasts are based on love in recognition of Valentine’s Day. 

In their first February podcast they talk about Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, “The Five Love Languages,” and how the five love languages played a role in their lives. In the second February podcast Dr. Chapman joins Christina and Bridgette and talks about the importance of love languages not only for couples but for singles, and how understanding your child’s love language is important, and how your love language plays a role in your relationship with God and ministry. Understanding and using the love languages will change your life. 

What are the five love languages? They are touch, quality time, acts of service, positive affirmation, and gifts. Chapman states that we each can express our love in different ways, and that couples often have different love languages. We want to make sure that we fill the love tank of those we want to love, so therefore understanding their love language is very important. That way they will feel that their “love tank” is full. 

For more information about the love languages, check out the Generations podcast at http://www.godsword.net or pick up one of Dr. Chapman’s books. Then you can spread the love all year long.


FOR MORE INFORMATION CONCERNING THIS PRESS RELESE CONTACT:
Bridgette Mongeon
Bridgette@godsword.net,

Hannah Ahn
Hannah@godsword.net

Friday, February 6, 2009

My Hard Workin' Man

Here's a picture of my man hard at work. In addition to the numerous responsibilities and deadlines he's had recently, he's also had the daunting task of dealing with a very pregnant, tired, and hormonal wife;) Although I do not always express to him just how much I appreciate the way he works hard to provide for our family, to be a supportive husband, and a very engaged and loving father,  I REALLY do thank God for him!

Before hubby and I were a couple, I spent alot of time praying and seeking God about his will in regards to our relationship.  I had alot of fears about courting and wanted to know if this man was really "the one." The verses below are ones that God used to open my eyes to the godly character of my future husband. As I read these verses, I realized they were a good depiction of who he already was. As a result, my fears and doubts began to go away. These verses are still a great depiction of who my hubby is at his core, and I can never read them without thinking of him!

"Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?

The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him" (Proverbs 20:6-7).

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Modesty Carnival


When it comes to virtuous living, modesty is an issue that is very important to me. I am constantly growing in my understanding of both the significance and implementation of this concept. Consequently, I was delighted to find out that Christa over at Empowered Traditionalist is hosting a spring modesty carnival! You can check out her blog to find links to a wide range of very inspiring articles on modesty. With so many pervasive and ungodly messages about how women should dress and carry themselves in today's society, it helps to know there are other young women who are striving to take a biblical stand in this area!

Monday, February 2, 2009

Sphincter Law




As promised, here's more information about the concept of Sphincter Law. Perhaps you thinking: "What is a "sphincter" anyway?" Well, a "sphincter" is "A ringlike muscle that normally maintains constriction of a body passage or orifice and that relaxes as required by normal physiological functioning"(www.answers.com).

Above you will find a short video of Ina May Gaskin explaining sphincter law as it relates to labor and delivery. (*Warning: Some language used in the video may not be appropriate for children).

Below, you will find an article and interview of Gaskin done by Erika-Marie S. Geiss. Geiss is a mother, editor and freelance writer who credits much of her successful, unmedicated vaginal delivery to her understanding of sphincter law. You can read the original article here.


Easing Tension and Fear in Natural Childbirth by Understanding Sphincter Law: A Conversation with Ina May Gaskin
By Erika-Marie S. Geiss

Among the preparedness tips and suggestions for mothers who want to deliver naturally, Ina May Gaskin's Sphincter Law is rarely cited in mainstream publications geared to pregnant women or those trying to conceive. Teaching pregnant women to understand the cervix as a sphincter is an unfortunate omission in the literature and discussion for labor and delivery. Becoming equipped with the knowledge of Sphincter Law could not only change women's attitudes towards natural, vaginal delivery, but could also give pregnant women more control over their experience in the third trimester and during labor and delivery itself.

The mother of one child, and labeled elderly prima gravida when pregnant, I had an unmedicated vaginal delivery without any complications, to which I owe Sphincter Law a lot of credit. While trying to conceive and during pregnancy, among the many texts I read were Ina May Gaskin's Spiritual Midwifery (1977) and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth (2003), which is where I first learned about Sphincter Law. There was something about Sphincter Law that made sense, especially during my third trimester when my son seemed to live perched on my intestines and bladder, making waste elimination beyond uncomfortable. Employing Sphincter Law during my third trimester not only eased the difficulty of going to the bathroom, but afforded the opportunity to practice it, thus preparing myself physically and mentally for a natural delivery.

Several months after my son was born, I had the opportunity to speak with Ina May Gaskin about the genesis of Sphincter Law and how and why it works. Gaskin is the first to have discussed the cervix as a sphincter, tapping into the concept that if one sphincter is open and relaxed, the others will also open, relax and be able to handle, quite adequately, the task at hand. In effect, the sphincters include any of the bodily openings from which an organ expels an object whether it is air, waste, or a child. Human socialization has taught us keep our sphincters in check?asserting control over them so as not to be inappropriate or impolite. This same control, however, can serve to hinder the natural childbirth process, but understanding and using Gaskin's Sphincter Law can instead help and ease both the tension and fear associated with natural childbirth.

Erika-Marie S. Geiss: How did you discover Sphincter Law?

Ina May Gaskin: I discovered it through observation, particularly with one of my patients who was also a singer. During a difficult stage in her labor, I knew that she could not bear to hear or sing a wrong note, so I had her sing. It was purely instinctive on my part, to have her sing, because I realized that if you want the bottom end to do something, yet you can't control it, then [you have to] work on the top end. By breathing deeply so that the middle expands, and you open your upper openings (the mouth and larynx), then the other openings will follow and also open. It's the principle of "as above, so below."

Geiss: For those readers who are not familiar with your work, what are the basics of Sphincter Law?

Gaskin: When the voluntary muscles get tired, the sphincters don't get tired. Those are connected to the organs that fill up with something?the bladder, uterus, intestines. They expand and contract, and when they yawn open, whatever is inside comes out, and then they close again. But, they work better in privacy?they're shy?and this is true of humans and most animals. We seek privacy to allow our sphincters to do their jobs, jobs that at the most basic level, have to do with hormone levels in the body. For example, oxytocin levels in blood rise when something big comes out (whether it's a baby or a bowel movement). Laughter is one thing that can help open the sphincters. I ask women to laugh when they're having a baby because it helps the process along; it also adds to oxytocin and endorphin levels. But on the converse, if someone is afraid or feels violated, for example, the sphincter can slam shut [what is sometimes called cervical reversal].

Geiss: How did you come up with the term?

Gaskin: Sphincter is a powerful word, and attracts attention, so it made sense to call it what it is.

Geiss: Is Sphincter Law a technique that many midwives use?

Gaskin: I started out with the realization that many midwives didn't consciously know about Sphincter Law and few nurses or nurse-midwives knew about it. There was a common experience, though, among the midwives that I have worked with. A lot of homebirth midwives used it subconsciously, but I didn't know of anyone else who had shaved down the knowledge of the cervix decreasing (or reversing) during labor. Some women, during labor, have reversed dilation without showing the least signs?and this is a story (number 99) described in my Guide to Childbirth. Yet all of these midwives experienced something that supposedly never happened, according to medical texts, and there was no connection to how or why it happens. There is a fundamental ignorance that is taught: believing in false modesty, allowing the mind to censor primal thought. When I wrote the book, I tried to write it for the generation before you and for your generation?women who were completely scared of their bodies. I wanted to change behavior. The concept of "let your monkey do it?, that is, leaving your socialization and high-level reasoning behind, Sphincter Law and [the ability to] orgasm during childbirth are the messages that many really come away from with it.

Geiss: What about obstetricians? Is it employed or discussed by the mainstream medical community?

Gaskin: Not yet. I haven't heard of a single one discussing it today. Thirty to thirty-five years ago, OBs [sic.] were interested in what midwives know, today not so much. But today there are more midwives. The [midwifery] industry was just starting to grow a generation ago. I don't get the same invitations that I used to get from obstetricians, but hopefully that will change.

Geiss: In your estimation, would understanding Sphincter Law improve the chances of easier vaginal deliveries even in a hospital setting?

Gaskin: It would if obstetricians understood. Obstetricians need to have experiences they don't have now, as well as be able to connect birthing to the animal world and not make birthing a procedure. If doctors were asked to lie on their backs, with their feet in stirrups and forced to move their bowels on demand, they might have a different approach.

Geiss: What can a pregnant woman do ahead of time to prepare herself to use Sphincter Law during labor?

Gaskin: Practice when moving the bowels: laugh, take her time, squat, and cultivate a sense of humor and laughing and a connection to the entire bodily process. Sphincter muscles are more likely to open if the woman feels positive about herself where she feels inspired and enjoys the birth process.

Geiss: How is the breathing associated with Sphincter Law different from or similar to other popular breathing techniques and natural childbirth methods?

Gaskin: [The breathing associated with Sphincter Law] is less restrictive and less contrived than some of the other [popular] breathing techniques, which I call "distraction breathing?.

Geiss: If a pregnant woman is also taking other childbirth classes (such as Bradley or Lamaze), can Sphincter Law complement her childbirth education, and how can she incorporate it into her knowledge base? Gaskin: The distraction breathing that's taught in some of these classes is different than the physiological breathing necessary to accomplish birthing. Hyperventilating is not helpful, and women get caught up in breathing the right way, and then when they are delivering, get panicky when they think they are breathing wrong. This creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of a challenging birth. Instead of letting their monkey do it, women can get trapped by the false modesty and in the fear they have been taught. But when women try the kind of deep, yogic abdominal breathing used in Sphincter Law, they find that they relax and can enjoy the process.

Geiss: When is using it most useful during labor and delivery?

Gaskin: Throughout [the entire process] but especially when the woman delivering is starting to feel vulnerable or scared.

Geiss: Is there any other information that you would like to add?

Gaskin: Yes. Women should not listen to the horror stories and instead seek out positive birth stories?ones that share about what worked and what didn't work for the mothers sharing their stories. If you know someone who went the path you intend to go, then it starts to seem more possible. We're so isolated and shy, with a false modesty when it comes to bodily functions including childbirth. There isn't a lot of opportunity to get together and connect about these things in a very frank way. Consider hiring a doula or midwife or consider asking a friend or sister to take a class with a doula with you for that kind of connectedness and experience, even if you are intending to have a hospital birth.


Sunday, February 1, 2009

My prep work continues...

Well folks, with only 39 days to go, you should know I am completely consumed in pregnancy info and in my natural birth prep work. As I searched the web to gain further insight into what I should be experiencing at 34 weeks pregnant, I ran across this comment on a pregnancy website:

Your Pregnancy: Week 34
"The nursery is almost done. You've stocked up on diapers. You're ready..."  I read this and thought to myself, "Well, they don't know me very well at all, do they? I have done absolutely NOTHING of the sort!" 

It is true that I have put little thought into what this baby might need after he gets here. Instead, I have been much more preoccupied with preparing for "the process" by which he must get here! I guess, taking care of a newborn baby is not as intimidating, since I have done that twice in the past 3 and 1/2 years. However, giving birth without any medication is a completely new adventure, of which I have spent most of my brain power preparing for! First things first, right?

Speaking of which, thanks to everyone who wrote and posted a link in response to my Calling all "natural birthers" -Share Your Story post. I did gain some more insight into ideas for comfort techniques as well as what to expect in general. In addition to your stories, I have investigated more information about the issue of avoiding perineal tears and episiotomies.

In my search, I have become more acquainted with the work of Ina May Gaskin. I initially became acquainted with Gaskin after watching The Business of Being Born (of which hubby and I have recently watched again-twice!) Gaskin is a pioneer in modern midwifery and founder and director of the Farm Midwifery Center, located near Summertown, Tennessee. She has written several books about natural birth and mothering and has herself has attended more than 1,200 births. Gaskin is also the first midwife for whom an obstetric technique was named.

In terms of perineal tears and episiotomies, Gaskin has some very interesting tips that I have not read in many mainstream publications on labor and delivery. For example, Gaskin stresses the importance of teaching pregnant women to see the cervix as a sphincter. I've gathered more information on this that I will share in another post, so stay tuned!

Monday, January 19, 2009

Calling all "natural birthers!"- Share Your Story!

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In response to my last post, in which I explained how I was preparing for my first unmedicated birth, Chelsa said... "With brycen i had no pain meds at all either- what an exhilarating feeling!" This comment sparked an idea...

It seems to me that many women, who have had a planned natural birth have actually grown to cherish that experience for one reason or another. I, for one, who have not yet experienced it, am facsinated by that, because I would describe my first birth as "traumatic." My second went alot smoother, but I still see it as something that could have been potentially "traumatic" and I don't believe it has to be that way at all.

This time, I hope that when its all over, I will be able to say that my birth experience was, empowering, challenging, yet not impossible, beautiful, amazing, etc. As I prepare, I would love to read more about other's natural birth experiences. I am thinking of checking out the book you see above entitled,"Adventures in Natural Childbirth: Tales from Women on the Joys, Fears, Pleasures, and Pains of Giving Birth Naturally" by Janet Schwegel which is a culmination of many natural birth stories. But in the meantime...

...I'm CALLING ALL "NATURAL BIRTHERS!" If you have a natural birth story you would like to share, please write a post about it and leave the link to it (or your blog) in the "comments" section of this post. If you already wrote a blog post about your natural birth(s) please do post a link to it (or your blog) in the "comments" section of this post. If you do not have a blog, but would like to contribute, please write your story in an email and email it to me at: lasandrahutchinson@gmail dot com and I'll post it on my blog.

Here are some questions I still have that you can use as guidelines if you wish:

1. Why did you decide to have a natural birth?

2. How did you prepare for your birth?

3. Who was present at your birth? How did you decide on those individuals? What role did they play?

4. What positions worked well for you? What position did you deliver in? Would you do that again?

5. Did you have a perineal tear/and or episitomy? If not, what do you think helped you avoid that?

6. What was the best and most challenging part of the experience as a whole?

7. If you had to do it all over again, what would you do differently?

Saturday, January 17, 2009

The Joys of Motherhood

As you may have noticed, I only have 54 days left before the predicted arrival of my "man child!" Consequently, I have been englufed in any useful information I can get my hands on as I prepare for my first unmedicated birth.

In my search, I ran across the book, "Childbirth Without Fear" by Grantly Dick Read. Dick-Read points out that although many modern interventions and societal ills have caused a tremendous amount of fear around the experiences of birth and motherhood, much joy can be found in both. I found this particular excerpt to be truly empowering:

"...is there any happiness that can be compared with that of a woman with her small babies? Is there any love so unselfish and inspiring as the love of a mother for her child? To healthy-minded women, it is the realization of their highest ambition, the fulfilment of their distinctive urge and the ultimate perfection of their bodily functions."

Thursday, January 15, 2009

Book Study & Giveaway!


Lindsay at Passionate Homemaking is hosting a book study and giveaway of the the book "Practicing Hospitality: The Joy of Serving Others" by Pat Ennis and Lisa Tat. The study of the book begins February 1st and in order to enter the giveaway you must leave a comment under Lindsay's Jan 11th post. If you're interested visit Lindsay's blog.

Here's a short description of the book:

"Practicing Hospitality: The Joy of Serving Others by Pat Ennis & Lisa Tat lock will assist you in fulfilling this command through supplying you with the vision and excitement to see how you can take part in extending His kingdom by simply opening your home and life to others. The authors delve into topics of extending hospitality first and foremost to your own family, keeping your household managed so you can be prepared for hospitality, in addition to a wealth of ideas, recipes and resources for all aspects of serving others. This book is for single and married individuals alike as the authors provide tangible ideas for both audiences on how to fulfill this command."

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Oh yeah...

...other things happened at the wedding, besides my baby being the flower girl, didn't it? Here are a few pictures:

They caught a picture of my man lovin' on baby Bella.


Hubby sang his heart out during the lighting of the candle.


The lovely bride and groom.


Hubby with his brother.

Just because she was so adorable...

...here are more pictures of Our Flower Girl Princess!

Primping.






There's a smile!


Here's the dress detail.

Monday, January 12, 2009

How am I feeling at 31 weeks and 4 days pregnant?

I used a dictionary to make sure I had an adequate description for you.

Let's take a look at two words, shall we?

adj. ex·treme (ik-strem)
2. Being in or attaining the greatest or highest degree; very intense: extreme pleasure; extreme pain.
3. Extending far beyond the norm: an extreme conservative. See Synonyms at excessive.

and...

n. hun-ger (hnggr)
1.
a. A strong desire or need for food.
b. The discomfort, weakness, or pain caused by a prolonged lack of food.
2. A strong desire or craving: a hunger for affection.

Yeah...that would be it. Uh huh..."extreme hunger" would be the most precise way of identifying what this is that has overcome me the past few days.

Strangely enough, it seems to overtake me almost every two hours. I'm not talkin' "I need a snack" hunger. I'm talkin' "Pass the meat and potatoes!" hunger, if you know what I mean! I don't know if I remember reaching this extent during the last two pregnancies, but there just doesn't seem to be enough food to satisfy my peculiar, unceasing state of...you know... "extreme hunger."

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Because I love all things radical...


...I immediately thought: "I MUST read this!" After reading an excerpt from Carolyn McCulley's new book; "Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World," I was very much inspired about my role as a Christian wife and mother in today's society. I visited her blog and it also seems to be wellspring of inspiring support for a gal like me, always on the prowl for more info on virtuous living! Below is a small portion of the excerpt I read at www.boundless.org.

"...Ever since, Satan has labored to destroy the offspring of those who are made in the image of God. The real mommy wars are not against flesh and blood — other mothers and their parenting methods — but against the one who seeks to destroy the next generation of those who would rise up to praise God. We can debate all kinds of parenting philosophies, methods, and practices, but the real conflict is not with the proponents of opposite ideas. Most assuredly, there is a war and the price is high. Mothers (and fathers) are called to be strong warriors in this battle. But, as we've explored before in this book, Ephesians 6:12 tells us that our true opponents are not flesh and blood, but the spiritual forces of evil in this present darkness...

You may be a mother and in the thick of rearing children right now. Perhaps it took you many weeks to read this chapter, thanks to the constant interruptions of young children. Your daily life may consist of dozens of repetitive tasks that feel so mundane and irrelevant. You kiss boo-boos, you make dinner, you do dishes, you answer a homework question, you drive to soccer practice, you read a good night story, you do laundry, you make dinner again. Unglamorous daily tasks and unimportant in the big picture, you may think.

This is absolutely not true! You are engaged in spiritual warfare, battling against beliefs and philosophies that slander God's name and tarnish His gifts to us. You are standing against those who believe heinous lies, like "the most merciful thing that a large family does to one of its infant members is to kill it." By giving life and nurturing life, you are reflecting the life-giving characteristics of our holy God! Made in His image, you are reflecting Him when you care for the lives He has created.

I think it is very easy for mothers to lose sight of the big picture when they are consumed with the daily "ordinariness" of life. I hope that this chapter has helped you to see how relentless the assault against bearing and mothering children can be. I hope it has helped you to take the long view of what you are doing in training the next generation to be worshipers of God. None of us can make that happen — it is the regenerating work of the Holy Spirit in each of us — but we are called to plant and water the seeds of the gospel and wait with expectant hope that God will give the growth..."

Monday, January 5, 2009

Our Flower Girl Princess

I'm finally settling back into "normal life" after the holidays and our trip to Atlanta for my brother-in-law's wedding.

Our 3 year old was sold on the idea of being a flower girl after we told her she would wear her very own "princess dress" for the day. Although she was a bit nervous, she was adorable and did a great job!






After the ceremony, "the princess" and her little sister were elated to be rewarded with a box fruit loops!