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Friday, July 30, 2010

Tricia's Story

If you know me personally, or if you have been hanging around this blog for any length of time, you might know I have what most would consider some pretty radical thoughts when it comes to family planning, or the lack thereof.

Perhaps I will use a future post to explain my own ideas and how I arrived at those conclusions. However, today I want to share what I have found to be a very inspiring story from my very first guest blogger, Tricia.

Tricia is a mom to 12 blessings and was so kind to grant my request that she share her reasons for allowing the Lord to control her family size as well as her experiences with motherhood as a result of that decision. I hope her story blesses you as much as it blessed me!


Tricia's Story



What exactly would motivate someone to have a dozen children?
And what on earth would motivate someone to have even more if that were the Lord's will? The answer: I don't know!! It is true that I have 12 kids, and would love more but to put a direct answer on it is difficult to do. It all began so long ago~at least it seems long ago!

I married the guy I dated in high school. Let me tell you, he came from a very odd family. I thought so anyway, he had what seemed to me a million brothers and sisters! Only 9 though to be exact. Why is it that when you see a family of more than 4 or so kids it seems like a million?

So we got married and started our own family. What was really weird though is that HIS family was not finished having children. His mother and I began a journey together of having children. We had our first, in laws their 10th, me my second, and in laws their 11th. I remember thinking, boy howdy, what did I get myself into!

Well, we continued to have children; not at the time because we felt led by the Lord, (Although that was exactly what was happening) but because it just felt right. To me as a woman, and to my husband as a man. After all, the Lord did say to multiply and replenish the earth.

But what keeps one going through the pregnancies, the morning sickness, the mounds of dirty diapers, the empty pocketbook and so on? Doing the will of the Lord is what keeps you going. Not just in birthing babies but in everything. I remember so many times my in-laws telling us: "We don't know how we did it, the Lord just blessed us with each baby we had." I like the word "multiplied" because indeed that is what the Lord does when we serve Him and keep His commandments.


But what about all the Quiverfull talk nowadays? The~"Let the Lord Plan Your Family" talk? Does that apply to my decision? Yes, and no. Like I said, in the beginning it just felt like I was doing what a woman was created to do and it felt so natural and right that we kept going. After baby number 7 though I got a bit, um, wearied if you will. Suddenly, I felt much like a baby making machine and less of a mother. We prayed, fasted, even looked into BC methods. (I can't even say those words!) Obviously we never began using anything because while I was wearied I/we knew in our hearts it was not for us.

Looking back I see I was trying to keep up with the Jones' and having 7 children kept getting in the way. I wanted a perfect house, always clean, fashionable, organized, etc. and I wanted to "hide" all the evidence of children so my house too could look "IN."

Well, it was that time the Lord got hold of our hearts. And let me tell you, He has a sense of humor, a wonderful sense of humor although I didn't think so then. It wasn't long until we learned of baby number 8 one the way. Fast forward about 6 months and we find it isn't only baby number 8 on the way but baby 9 too!! The sense of humor I'm talking about!! From then on, we knew we wanted to do the Lord's will where babies were concerned.

It is true, that when you trust the Lord you are blessed in abundance. Children truly are an heritage of the Lord and happy is the man who's quiver is full of them. I would never change a thing. I have no regrets, nor do I feel I have neglected the ME in myself. Whosoever will find himself will lost it, and whosoever will lose himself shall find it. That's what I did. I put the ME away and tried with all my heart to do as the Lord bid. One thing I am learning as of late, is that not only are we to trust the Lord in blessing our womb, but we are also to trust in Him when He is NOT blessing our womb. When the babies don't come when we would like, or never come again, that too is trust.

My advice to anyone who reads this~Is trust in the Lord, be content where He has placed you and with what He has given you. He is perfect, His will is perfect, and we must accept His will in all things with gladness of heart.


Tricia blogs at: mommyx12 and smith cottage

Saturday, July 24, 2010

The Green Wedding

I was in the wedding of my dear friend this summer. The wedding was held at The Inn at Leola Village in Lancaster, PA, which meant some traveling for me.

Fortunately, my hubby (being the kind and considerate guy that he is), decided that I could take this opportunity to travel alone! This was the first time I have been out of town alone since 2004! To be honest, I was both excited and a little nervous.

I took the Mega Bus from Chicago to Columbus, OH, where I stayed with my good friend Tia, who was also a bridesmaid in the wedding. From there, Tia and I drove to Pennsylvania.

My trip was both fun and relaxing and I really enjoyed the wedding venue. If you are planning a small and intimate wedding (of about 75 people or so) and/or are just looking for a romantic getaway, I highly recommend The Inn at Leola Village!

Check out the pictures...

The ceremony...

The groom is a professional saxophone player and played while the bride walked down.

The guys...

The gals...

More friends from Chicago who came to the special event.
The reception was in a room right next door to the ceremony. I loved the fireplace and attention to details.

The groom serenaded the bride at the reception. This guy can sho' nuff play the sax!!

Tia and I...

Mr. and Mrs. Green...

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

It will work out...

"I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all."

~Ecclesiastes 9:11

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."

~Romans 8:28

You just gotta love this song. It will work out for the good of them who love the Lord? How can you not love a song with a message like that?

Have you ever had to wait on the Lord? Have you ever had to fight and wrestle to hold on to a promise? Have you been wronged? Have you had a situation that looked impossible? Have you had to walk alone when no one seemed to quite understand? Have you had to cry? Have you had to fight to praise your way through?

Perhaps you're there now.

Either way, let this promise...

Things
(meaning: whatever the situation)
will (meaning: indefinitely)
work out (meaning: prosper, rectify, conclude)
for the good (meaning: in the best possible scenario)
of them that love the Lord (meaning: you)

...carry you through it!


Thursday, July 1, 2010

The Highlight of My Week

Hubby: (As I bandage Noelle's arm) "See Noelle, Mommy's all done! She's a good nurse." Do you think Mommy could be a nurse?"

Noelle: "No" (as she shakes her head).

Hubby: "Well, do you want to be a nurse?"

Noelle: "No!!"

Hubby: "Well, what do you want to be?"

Noelle: "I want to be a Mommy, just like Mommy!"