"Her price was everthing I had."

Below is a small segment of an interview that Nancy Leigh De moss did with Carolyn McCulley in September 2009. The two ladies had a very candid discussion about feminism and its effects on how society views sexuality.

After Nancy asks Carolyn a question about how we, as Christian women should view our sexuality, Carolyn tells this story...

Carolyn: ...I’d mentioned earlier in the show about this 15-year-old girl who had no knowledge or understanding of godly sexual relationships. I had the opportunity to introduce her to a married couple where I knew the man would be very direct. I encouraged him to talk to her very candidly about what men think of women in their sexuality and the value of modesty, the value of women who are reserved.

He looked at her, and he said, “My wife cost me everything. You need to understand something about economics in social relationships.”

He said, “If a candy bar costs a dollar, you’re just going to pay one dollar for the candy bar. You’re not going to pay two.”

He said, “So whatever value you put on yourself and access to you as a woman is the price it goes for on the market place, if you’re following me.”

He said, “I looked at my wife, and I knew that in order to have her affection, her attention, her romance, and her sexuality, I had to be able to pay everything I had. Her price was everything I had, my whole commitment to her and then some, for the rest of my life.”

Nancy: As in the covenant of marriage.

Carolyn: The covenant of marriage. That was her standard, her price. “If you want access to me, you marry me. There isn’t anything lesser than that.”

He said, “So she was no one-dollar candy bar. She was an everything-I-have candy bar, and it was worth it.”

He said, “You need to understand the value that God has given you because of who He created you to be.”

I thought this part of the interview exemplifies a beautiful and powerful approach to explaining God's will when it comes to human sexuality and the covenant of marriage. It is a message that's not heard enough in our day.

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;...

...So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church" (Ephesians 5:25-29).